When the posts are childish and misogynistic...

...yes I have voiced my indignation a number of other times.

I think one rule to follow is how might a given post make a woman reading the listserv feel. Let's say there's a woman member who considers herself homely and has had a bad experience being teased at some point about it. Or it could be a beautiful woman who has seen her friends made fun of for their looks. How might she feel reading a post where someone who is really quite normal looking is referred to as "strange" looking just because she has the temerity to be both unbeautiful and in a movie or TV show? She might say to herself, "Gee, they could be talking about me" and feel ridiculed by reflected meaning.

I'm only of medium height and wouldn't have minded being a bit taller. If I participated in a list where the women frequently said insensitive, disparaging things about guys under 6 feet tall I would be put off by that.

In the end what I'm really saying is that you ought to be careful to express yourself with a little more circumspection so that you avoid causing unnecessary hurt in other people. You might say I'm doing the same thing with you but it's not based on an accident of genetics and appearance, but on your behavior. I think it's a different thing.

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Topic - Does anyone know which movie this clip is from? - late 14:11:31 08/08/08 (14)

Thanks, gents, it's in the queue ..nt - late 19:36:46 08/09/08 (0)

"Morning, Sam." Foyle's War. - Duilawyer 06:14:57 08/09/08 (10)

LOL! You wouldn't know what to do with yourself if she came on to you... - sjb 20:36:47 08/09/08 (0)

I would call her... - Harmonia 18:28:25 08/09/08 (0)

Man I wish you'd shut up... - EBerlin 12:21:44 08/09/08 (7)

There have been many long threads here about actresses being... - Duilawyer 14:07:56 08/09/08 (6)

When the posts are childish and misogynistic... - EBerlin 15:47:50 08/09/08 (5)

OH yes, we wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings by expressing - tinear 20:09:12 08/09/08 (4)

How sublimely predictable... - EBerlin 20:23:30 08/09/08 (3)

What well-crafted argumentation. So predictable, as well. nt - tinear 14:42:55 08/10/08 (1)

Thanks! * - EBerlin 16:41:00 08/10/08 (0)

That's for sure. nt - sjb 20:41:35 08/09/08 (0)

Funny...I just watched the very *last* episode of Foyle this evening * - EBerlin 21:05:45 08/08/08 (0)

That's from........ - afilado 20:14:23 08/08/08 (0)

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When the posts are childish and misogynistic... - EBerlin 15:47:50 08/09/08 (5)

OH yes, we wouldn't want to hurt someone's feelings by expressing - tinear 20:09:12 08/09/08 (4)

How sublimely predictable... - EBerlin 20:23:30 08/09/08 (3)

What well-crafted argumentation. So predictable, as well. nt - tinear 14:42:55 08/10/08 (1)

Thanks! * - EBerlin 16:41:00 08/10/08 (0)

That's for sure. nt - sjb 20:41:35 08/09/08 (0)

When the posts are childish and misogynistic...

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